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It’s Going to Be Hard

There are times when are we faced with situations and hardships that seem to fill our day, and everything feels bleak and hopeless. It is during those times that it is important to remember these undeniable truths:

Pain helps you grow

What doesn’t kill you – can help make you stronger. The old saying encapsulates this truth but forgets to mention one thing; To be able to overcome pain, you must embrace it and allow it to pass over you. If you try to ignore the pain, you’ll end up losing a part of yourself, a part that is very difficult to reconnect with later. Accept the hardship, explore your pain, and once the waves of sadness die down, you will be given a new lease on life.

Fears are often illusions

Fear only become stronger when you let it. You are always in control of your fear, so don’t let it control you back. Fear can serve you, by keeping you alert in dangerous situations, but unless physical harm may come to you or your loved ones – you must let fear know who’s boss.

Nothing but immutable truths last forever

Love, pain, troubles, success – it is all transitory. Take joy in the good times, and learn from the bad times, for they, too, shall pass.  Cling to those immutable truths that fill your heart with joy …  deep understanding.

Struggles are nothing more than steps on the way to success

When you’re pursuing dreams, remember that patience does not mean inaction. Patience means staying on track, and using each struggle as a stepping stone to realizing worthy dreams. It’s not going to be easy, but it will always be educating.

“Good” and “bad” depend on your outlook

Life is filled with infinite shades of gray, some darker, some lighter, but it’s never black or white. You may think that something you’re doing is good and necessary, but if you end up tossing and turning in bed, unable to sleep, it means that your conscious doesn’t necessarily agree. People aren’t bad, but they can do bad things. Always try and understand why the person opposite you is doing what they’re doing. They are also going through a struggle you may not be able to see.

Change only that which you can change

You are the sum of your experience, and you cannot change that. You can, however, change your perspective of those experiences. Try looking at “bad” experiences from another point of view, and you might realize that they weren’t all that bad to begin with.  And for those negative experiences, you can add to your core knowledge of what doesn’t work and why.

Treat yourself with kindness

Accepting yourself and knowing you’re doing your best is good enough. If you have a tendency of self-deprecation, consider how you’d feel if someone else told you these things. Be good to yourself and you’ll start to feel a difference. Remember to forgive yourself.

Nothing truly great is instant

If you could have everything you wanted instantly, you’d lose your drive to grow, and things that don’t grow end up decaying and dying away. Practice patience, and enjoy the ride.

Remember: Life’s an adventure that leads you toward your eternity.

Take risks, it’ll make you more creative, and give you more confidence. Even if you fail a couple of times, get up and try again. Get out of your comfort zone and you just might find true happiness…

Maintain Your humility

Humility can bring the understanding that problems are not as difficult as you perceive them to be. Being overconfident is as bad as being paralyzed with fear – but knowing yourself and what it is that you’re capable of will give you a sense of ownership over your accomplishments, yet keep you humble and provide you with clarity.

You fall, you rise, you make mistakes, you live, you learn.  You are human and not perfect.  But think what a precious privilege it is to be breathe, to think, to enjoy, and to chase the things you love.  Sometimes there is sadness in our journey, but there is also lots of beauty.  Although we don’t know what lies ahead, we can prepare ourselves. Just breathe and stand the pain, gather the truth about you, have faith in all things good and worthy.  Let life strengthen you.  The hardest lessons to be learned are those you need most.